See situation is not just a matter of where you are when something happens, but it is based on the individual mind in a far more complex structure than pessimism and optimism. The world is shaped around certain events both pessimisticaly viewed and optimistically viewed depending on the mood of the individual, and each one of these events shapes ones outlook. Therefore, the way we percieve events, even over the age span is entirely unique and individual. Take, for example, the everyday fight between a child and their parent.
In this situation as in most, a child has said something the parent sees as defiance a way of flouting the rules, testing boundaries because in 'reality' the parent is in charge of the childs existence, they clothed them and housed them and fed them for all of their life. While this is true it is, like many things only one side of the story, one side of the coin. From the childs point of view the parent bought them into the world and for this the parent is responsibly for them, but rule and control has to be based on trust.
Many rulers rule by one policy, in china Mao Zedong ruled only in relation to peasants, completely turning on the 'capitalists of 'rightists' however he forgot that in a successful economy you need people who are educated enough to run the economy and thus reap the benefits they deserve. How does this relate to life, quite simply, parents want there children to be one hundred percent good and when they're not they expect an apology, while that is legitimate is it not fair to reason that when they are wrong we as people need an apology, life cannot simply go back to the way it was for while they may be sorry in their mind, the expressed word is far more genuine than a thought.
Quite recently i experienced this 'thought apology' at a friends house when a mother sent a child to bed without supper as a punishment. In the mean time she felt bad for this, yet she never sought to tell him this, and in the morning when the issue was not resolved in his mind and he felt the need to once again rebel, the point he was making i am not sure, but he was sad and that i understand. He was however punished again, yet unlike the mother the issue to him was unjust.
So how can we resolve this situation, its alright to say, look at it from the others point of view yet where in the world are you going to get two people consequentiality looking at the others point of view from the height of extreme emotion. Ive done it, and felt the calm knowing you get when you gain control of your emotions before digging yourself a deeper hole, yet how did that help me? My elder was still enraged at my accidental sarcasim as i asked for his help when he was not free to give it, yet, his demand for an apology came after his wrath as he, in return for my 'sarcasim', berated me. I could not justly give it, for that would be a blatant lie, and i felt would've disregarded me as a person, yet i could not expressibly say this as it would be seen to be disregarding him as a person. Indeed it may have as words have a strange effect on the angry mind. Insteed i said nothing, and my feelings went unrecorded while his continued to fly at me. While i undoubtedly started the situation out of careless phrasing I felt wronged for while i started the blow it was not me who took the first punch, as in war, it is always the one not who taunts but who strikes who is seen to have started the war.
Yet how does any sense of knowing help us? both parties still feel wronged, but to discuss ones thoughts would require a complete act of neutrality which would be broken the moment one spoke a word that was not to the other liking.
How can we resolve this situation which has existed across time? The truth? we cant, and one day, a day i truly dread, we may be faced with the same situation with us however being the parent.
And so, i leave you with this; Dulce et decorum est; it is honorable to die for ones country.
The question; is it honorable to die (suffer in silence) for family unity? or will that pent up rage cause an even greater rift?
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